My dad meant well. He meant for us kids to be content with what we had, to not complain about what we didn’t have. I remember hearing him saying, ‘What you don’t have, you do without”.
Unfortunately, what I learned from this statement, was not merely humility or contentment. I learned passivity and tolerance. I’ve passively tolerated too many circumstances as they were, rather than doing something about it. What I didn’t have, I just did without. I didn’t seize the power that I possess to make things happen. I also used to “do without” things that were within reach, because I didn’t understand I could reach for it. Since I didn’t already possess it, I did without it.
So as an adult I decided to unlearn this childhood lesson, and instead – what I don’t have, I get up and go get! I have a strong moral guide, I’m not materialistic, I don’t need a bunch of things, so I trust that my desires – the things I want and don’t yet have – are worthy pursuits.
What is something you don’t have that you are unwilling to do without? A healthy body? financial increase? international travel? It is all within reach. Get up and go get it!